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Basic Vocabulary

prospect = a romantic interest

meeting = a match

General Questions

How does it work?

Is my list of romantic interests actually confidential?

Do I have to list five prospects?

What if I don’t get any matches or I fall for someone new?

How can I get involved with P&M?

How does it work?

There’s a simple three-step process. Check it out:

You register with a email address and then list the names of up to five people on campus (male or female) who you’re romantically interested in. These are your “prospects.”

Your prospects instantly receive emails notifying them that someone at Brown has expressed interest in them at P&M and that they should visit the website to find out who.

Your prospects then register and list their five. Naturally, if you’re one of them, both of you receive congratulatory email notifications with the other party’s name. We call these matches “meetings” because it’s up to you two to negotiate the situation in real life. If you don’t score a meeting, nothing happens and your list of prospects remains completely confidential.

Is my list of romantic interests actually confidential?

Absolutely. We set it up so that once you submit your list, that information gets encoded and stored in a secure database. The software then decodes the information automatically to check for matches and sends you email notifications. There’s no actual person reading anything you submit to the website.
Do I have to list five prospects?

Of course not. Five is just the maximum. You can list just one if you like. We’re not going to force you to list people who you’re not actually that interested in for the sake of completeness. That would be ridiculous.
What if I don’t get any matches or I fall for someone new?

Don’t worry about it. You can edit your list of prospects at any time and once you click Submit, anyone you listed who isn’t already registered with P&M will receive that first email notification encouraging him or her to visit the website. Keep your head in the game and look out for new meetings.
How can I get involved with P&M?